Reasons not to use dating sites
Tinder is 70 percent (a made-up stat) deciding if strangers are hot enough to risk getting murdered, 29 percent typing “hey,” and maybe 1 percent “meeting people.” Tinder is to meeting people as The Sims is to raising a family.
Here are four reasons to break your dating app habit: A lot of people on Tinder will say they’re there because they “don’t have time to meet people,” but Tinder isn’t meeting people.
I never got anything I felt I could really use to improve my chances.
In my case, I feel the problem was that the product didn't live up to the advertising.
Three dates max, though more often than not, just one date.
I changed my profile multiple times, asked others' opinions, even solicited feedback from some of my dates (there were a lot of nice guys; in fact, I'm still good platonic friends with one of my first Match dates).
If dating were a “numbers game”—if exposure to more people meant dating more people—then people would just go to the nearest concert venue, introduce themselves to as many people as they can, and magically end up with a date.But anyone who has swiped for six months without meeting one exciting person on Tinder will tell you that it is not, in fact, a numbers game. Dating apps are ineffective by design: The app doesn’t want you to find love, because if you find love you stop using the app.Given how many people are using Tinder, and how often, we should all have found Tinder life partners by now.If you’re looking to date anyone seriously enough to know if they have siblings, then listen up: Make all the little apps shake in fear and then delete them. Either would get you closer to dating someone you actually like than Tinder will. It’s like dental surgery: Some people hate it, some people tolerate it, and you’re fucking nuts if you enjoy it. But because we think there’s a chance we might get laid or loved, we’re willing to pay any price—even our precious free time.
And if it’s not working for hot people, then you know it’s not working for anyone.