Dating one girl but like another
In my case, there were months of lying about his sobriety when I just wasn’t sure whether he was drinking or not.
Had I begun the list sooner, instead of listening to the words I so wanted to believe, I would have saved myself at least a year of heartbreak.
I was worried about his anger, or that he would relapse, or be too stressed out or my actions would cause something bad to happen. It was his turn to learn to deal with the reality of our existence instead of us having to shrink because of the reality of .” His mother had been an alcoholic and it had stunted his life. “Run” was the best advice I received and it’s the advice I would give my daughter if she ever got involved with an addict. When I finally left my husband, I was only able to do so after taking weeks to compose a list of facts.
The reason this advice hurt so much at the time was that it would have forced me to see my part in things. At my office, I began to put together a black and white list of the things in our relationship that I could not accept.
It would be such a shame for your failures to sway the thoughts of other the future mothers out there.
And that was where he was doomed to spend his holidays, till death do us part: sleeping on a sofa-bed in the kind of place where Clint Eastwood would have gone to film a spaghetti Western.
” We must remember to trust our instincts and not wait for the people in our lives to change.
While I have seen some wonderful transformations in Alcoholics Anonymous, the statistics are not promising and I would not place any bets for my future on another addict. I just dated a (mostly) dry alcoholic for only 3 months.
There are millions of kind, whole and addiction-free men in the world. I’ve been sad that we broke up because I miss him, so I’ve been reading articles about the nightmares of dating an alcoholic to remind myself that I dodged a bullet.
My heart goes out to him and his struggling, but I do not need to subject myself to the inevitable hurt that his illness would bring me. However, if my mother had taken this same advice from someone as ignorant as you, I would have never had life. He is also a Man of God, Sunday school teacher, husband of 32 years, and the best man I know.
Wish I would have read this years ago…again, it probably would have fallen on just as deaf of ears as my Exs were when I was trying to tell him he drank too much, and how it was killing me. Recovering alcoholics – this article doesn't apply to you.