Dating after a break up
Sometimes it works, but usually cutting off your long blonde locks and dying your new crop black just to show you’re a ‘new’ person becomes something you regret.
The same applies to piercings – and especially to tattoos.
Turning those circuits off can create severe mental cravings, aches and pains, and sleepless nights. If you’re still in love with your ex it can be really hard thinking about them.
There are a number of mind techniques you can explore to challenge this such as EFT (emotional freedom technique), hypnotherapy and meditation.
You might not think it, but your idea for a new tattoo design may well be rooted in your heartache.
So maybe wait a while before getting ‘Life’s a Bitch’ inked on your thigh.
One of the definite downsides of social media is the ease with which it allows us to spy on, or even harass former partners.
Promise yourself two things: that you won’t post anything (however cryptic) about breaking up online; and that you won’t check your ex’s Instagram/Facebook feed/Pinterest board obsessively.
So it might not take much time for you to "move on" because you haven't been hurt.
Whether it’s drowning your heartbreak in booze or ceremonially throwing out everything that reminds you of your ex, breaking up can trigger a host of frantic activities. Take a look at the top 10 This is the No1 rule for a good reason: staying friends with your ex after breaking up is a terrible idea.
If it’s because you feel guilty, then all you’re doing is leading them on.
If you can’t be trusted then defriend or unfollow your ex. Revenge might seem like a brilliant idea but please, don’t go there. Maybe not straight away but when you realise that sex isn’t going to bring them back into your life, you’ll feel like rubbish.
Burning the stuff he left at your house or kidnapping her cat might be tempting but the outcome is pretty inevitable: you will seem mentally imbalanced and may even end up in trouble with the police. Your failed relationship is not worth you giving up on life and love.
Give yourself time to recover and then, when you’re ready, start looking for love again.